Are Engagement Sessions Necessary?

So you recently got engaged…. Congratulations! I am so excited for you! This is such a sweet season of your life and as a photographer, I love being a part of a couples love story. There are so many questions that I have found a bride (and a groom) has. One question I recently got from a bride was if an engagement session was necessary or not. This was a good question and one I pondered for a bit before responding.

My immediate reaction was, “Eh, it isn’t necessary I guess. Only if you really want it.” And then a few moments later was, “Yes, of course! Why wouldn’t you?!” To be honest, I’m kind of torn when answering this question as well. A lot of photographers charge extra for an engagement session, but some don’t. So to answer this question the best I could, I came up with a few questions to ask you as a bride (or groom).

#1: What are your fears regarding getting your photo taken?

Basically I want to get to know what you may be afraid of when thinking about your engagement photo session. Is it posing? Are you unsure of what to wear?  Out of all the photographers I personally know, myself included, these are fears we take into consideration and we do our best to eliminate for you. If you aren’t sure how to pose, we’ll pose you. Not sure what you should wear to your engagement session? We’ll send you a style guide to help you.

#2: Are you afraid it’s going to cost you extra?

A wedding can get expensive and the last thing I as a photographer want is to tack on another cost. That is why I have taken it upon myself and included an engagement session in my Wedding packages. Not all photographers are the same, so you may find that some do indeed charge more for an additional session other than the wedding itself. I can’t speak for them. However, out of the photographers that I know, every single one of them wants you to have a great experience and is willing to work with you if needed. I say, contact the photographer you’re interested in booking and tell them what you’re looking for.

#3: What would you want the photos for?

What are you looking to get out of the session? I know that a lot of engaged couples want the photographs for Save the Date cards. This is a great way to send out Save the Dates, but it isn’t necessarily required. You can send a Save the Date card that doesn’t include a photo of you just as easy. It is entirely up to you and your taste. I have seen really well done Save the Dates with and without photographs. Personally I liked the ones with photographs better because then I can put them up on my fridge and have a picture to look at. Either way, like I said, it’s up to you and your fiance’s taste.

Final Thoughts….

Now, with that said, not all photographers are the same, like I have said before. You should always go with the photographer you feel most comfortable with, whose style you love most, and who has shown themselves to be worth your investment. Contact multiple photographers, meet with them, and decide from there. You’ll know exactly who you want to go with after doing so, or that is the hope and goal.

An engagement session isn’t an absolute necessity, but it is always an incredible thing to look back on. If anything, it’s great for memories of a sweet, sweet time. I’ve seen photographs of engagements themselves, a session later, and couples who don’t have one all together. You know what you want as a bride or groom and I hope this helps clear up some questions that you may have.

If you’re in need of a photographer, don’t hesitate to contact me. Click the “contact” page and fill it out. I will respond as soon as I can. I love to travel as well, so even if you aren’t local, I woud love to chat with you!